Allyson and I will have a choice to make in the near future about the request we have made for adoption. We are requesting two siblings under the age of two, but have been told that the orphanages to which our agency has access currently has no children fitting these criteria. We could be waiting for a long time for such a match to be made. We can wait for a little under a year; after that, some of the paperwork in our dossier would expire and we would have to hassle with more money and effort to keep the dossier current.
Our second option is to open ourselves to adopting a sibling group with at least one child older than two. Allyson and I both feel ill-equipped to parent children older than toddlers. I am open to this option and am waiting to hear from Gladney about the sibling groups who are available to them.
The third option is to adopt only one child at this time, which was our mindset when we started the process last summer. Allyson and I really like the idea of two because they can be buddies to each other. Allyson also feels that financially it would be much more difficult to adopt another child later because she'll be home with the child(ren) so we'll be living on half our current income.
Right now we are waiting to hear back from Gladney about the kinds of sibling groups currently in their orphanage. Once we have, we will try to come to some decision on the above three options. We would like to act soon, because if we adopt only one child, we would love to take advantage of both having the summer off to get to our new life together with our baby. I'll write more as soon as I hear from Gladney.
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Good French word. It sounds so suave.
I imagine the weight of this is huge to bear...esp. the urge to say one, so that you can have your baby sooner! And even harder to explain to people!Whatever your decision, good luck!
Rachel
http://heartinafrica@blogspot.com/
Wow! What a tough decision. I know the wait is agonizing and I'm sure this definitely adds some pressure. Best wishes during this time.
WHat a tough choice. If it were me (which of course it isn't so this really doesn't matter) and I knew I wanted to adopt 2children from Ethiopia, I would be open to a sibling up to age 3 or 4. I have been looking at many blogs about families who went to Ethiopia. Most of the parents comment on how sweet and loving the older childrne are and how sad it is that so few of them will ever have "forever" families. The advantage of having just one new baby is that you can devote your full attention to getting to know him/her. I wiah you lots of luck as you make this decision. Whatever you decide will be a milestone for your family.
You guys do have a big decision to make. Hopefully once you hear from Gladney about the sibling groups available you will feel peace and clarity about what to do....Can't wait to see what happens!:)
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